My Kiddo and I have some of the best conversations; he’s an old soul and his humor on par with many adults I know. Add to that, he’s open with me and we talk about some pretty cool stuff; I feel lucky as the mom of a now ten year old boy that we talk the way we do and about the things that matter. Boy humor is often thrown in, well, just because. And because it really is funny sometimes. And, it’s hard to avoid!
That aside, when we get into one of our cool convos, I always know there will come a point in the conversation when I hear, “mom, can we be done talking about this now?” and I always say yes, even though of course, I want more. I know he’s reached his limit; that he’s overwhelmed or we got just a little too close. Some kind of noise, right?
I figure if I take his lead, then there will be a next time.
And, so far, so good; we’re still talking.
The other day, we were discussing his request for a new video game for his game console. It’s a never ending, ever-lovin’ request stream.
I hear the typical arguments:
“But mom, all my friends have it…”
“Mom, I will pay for it with my gift card…”
So, I ask kiddo to lay out the positives and the negatives.
“Tell me why I should say yes. Tell me why I would say no. I want to hear both sides from you.”
He plays along, the arguments are solid.
So, then I say,
‘Tell me about the game honey. Tell me why you like it so much.”
I hear so many words, my brain starts competing with itself to stay with him.
“It’s important, let him talk” vs. ‘”you have no idea what he’s saying”
“He’s doing a good job explaining it” vs. “stop thinking about what you need to finish this afternoon”
“He really wants to get his point across, wow” vs. “If only he was this focused and clear when it comes to homework”
Then, I start to laugh.
There is noise in my head.
I hear words like memory. extraction. database. points.
And then I don’t know what else. It’s all noise.
But I am laughing (he’s still explaining). I totally get it.
I say to him,
“Kiddo, can we be done talking about this now?”
Ps…remember..change is in the air.