If Trees Could Talk

The tree is more than first a seed, then a stem, then a living trunk, and then dead timber. The tree is a slow, enduring force straining to win the sky.

-Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Wisdom of the Sands, translated from French by Stuart Gilbert

We know that when we invest our hard earned money in a long term vehicle – we hope that when we tuck it away in good faith that the next time we see it, that it will have (fingers crossed!) grown from a tiny amount into something more than it was at the start.  We may make deposits along the way, keeping our eye on things as we go. But, we are never quite sure that the yield will be what we hope.

A few weeks ago, Kiddo and I set out on our annual vacation; another road trip of ‘epic proportion’. While last year we pointed our GPS in all directions south, this year we turned it upside down and put our focus on all things north.

All in all, our travels took us 1121 miles over the course of 6 days and 2 states and while I try to plan trips so that the entire trip IS the trip, we had a featured destination. We were going to live in a Treehouse for a few days!

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Here we go!

En route, we toured a brewery (Sierra Nevada Pale Ale, anyone?), walked across a one of a kind bridge (Sundial Bridge), saw rivers, mountains, lakes and even a volcano (Mt. Lassen) a dam (Shasta Dam) and a classic old mountain town (Dunsmuir). We saw GIANT trees, wildfires and Elk. Coastal fog and a working Lighthouse. What you hear about the shortage of water in Ca is true – the dam is 143 feet below the crest, the rivers once raging seem so lonely down in the nearly dry river beds in some cases.  In one day’s drive we had puffy white clouds, heat nearing 100 degrees, pure sunshine, fog, wildfire smoke and rain.

Upon arriving at our primary destination on day 2 we were enchanted! Part of a larger outfit called Out-n-About Treesort, we stayed at The Lilly Pad – a Bed and Breakfast ReTREET in Cave Junction, OR!  Tucked away in the forest on a private 13 acre wooded homestead, and 36 feet off the ground and built around an old Cedar tree which proudly boasts no less than 150 birthdays.

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The charm of The Lilly Pad was beyond compare, Kiddo and I were both like kids at Christmas running around getting acquainted with our digs. First up was “uploading” our gear via a simple but ingenious pulley system.  I love efficiency!  Once inside, we were met by a queen size bed with down comforters, a mini fridge, bunk beds. Lights, giant windows where  you can roll up the tarps and be one with the branches and birds. A coffee maker (good coffee in that mini fridge too, I might add!). A sink. A toilet. Good living up in those branches. And, at night the path is lit with rope lights that look more like fairy lights.

But perhaps its best amenity was the seclusion. The quiet. The call to disconnect and then connect with what is most important.

Kiddo and I played games.  Silly games. He discovered Parchesi and remarked about how old fashion games were made with such clever thinking.  We made up games.  We hung out in the hammock and took endless silly selfies. We pushed each other on the swings.  We hung out and talked. And talked. We talked about unplugging. About his love for video games. We tossed around a business pipe dream I have and he egged me on for over an hour, trying to flush out ideas, offering many of his own (good!) ideas. He taught me how to hula hoop. Yes, you read that correctly, my ten year old son taught his 40 something year old mama to hula hoop. (I’ve always wanted to learn!)

Deposits into that long term account were being made, I could hear the coins hitting the metal.

We signed up for the zipline course the next day, six platforms, tree to tree and across meadows.  I must be honest and tell you that I wasn’t sure who was the kid between the two of us; it was a total blast. But, by platform three, I could see the look on his face. I know my Kiddo.  He was done. But to be done, he had to complete one more line from platform four – from 50ft off the ground up in a tree.  I left him standing there, went first and then got to watch him zoom in, performing each part of the process perfectly.  He did it. He was brave and held on and had a great zip. But, he knows himself and his limits and quietly said, “that’s it mom.”

I nodded and hugged him and told him how proud of him I was.  Then, I went on to complete the final two lines.  Whee-hooo!  So, this time, he grabbed my phone and took the pictures.

Later, we talked about limits, and comfort zones, and fun and trying and challenges.  And knowing ourselves.

Ching. Ching.  More deposits.

As we ventured on in our trip, we stayed in a couple of Airbnb.com homes.  We were welcomed by such gracious hosts and I felt grateful for being able to show my son a way of travel that is not always synonymous with the word tourist.  I got sick for a day or two and while that definitely is not a travel tip I suggest, you who have been reading here for awhile know me to be of the mindset that these are the things that become the stories. “Oh, remember the year my mom got sick on the road trip?!”  And, it revealed to me a kindness and compassion in my son that again reminds me what is most important here.  As I apologized profusely to him for missing a cool adventure because I about passed out from some kind of food poisoning, he simply said; “don’t let it take you over mom, things happen.”

Needless to say, the rest of the trip was a little subdued while I rallied. We drove through beautiful redwood forests, saw trees that made our 150 year old Cedar Tree look like a toddler. Hours in the car and giant trees are not high on the woo-hoo list for any ten year old, mine included. We talked, ate cherry sours (once I could stomach them again!), played Fact or Fib, traded air time for our playlists (which have many of the same songs!) and talked some more. We got serious when my son asked me about regrets in life.  What mine are, what his are.  I was honest and let him in on a few things I would rather erase completely. That’s how it is with regrets.


As we went on a short hike through the  Jedediah Smith Redwoods State Park, there were a few grumbles and groans about taking this hike in the first place. I promised there would be no more hikes (trust me, I was feeling about 40% at this point) but that it was important to see these amazing trees, that people come from all over to see them, learn from them and just stand and feel small in their midst. I also laughed and told Kiddo that I knew I would have to wait about 20-30 years before he would really get it.

And that I was willing to wait.


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It became clear to me in that moment what this trip was all about. We had some of the coolest moments of all time. We also had some miserable moments and we had some pretty boring, mile after mile moments.  But together we logged not just miles. Not just experiences. Not even just memories. Seeds were planted, quietly. Deposits made into my most important, most valuable investment of all time.



32 thoughts on “If Trees Could Talk

  1. Lovely analogy, the deposits. My daughter and I took a road trip from Portland to the Redwoods, with a stop at the Oregon Caves. Not sure how close that is to Cave Junction but that general area is gorgeous. Road trips are definitely ways she and I have made some memories -and deposits! 😉

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  2. Did you encounter bugs or snakes? Were there screens on the tree house windows? Sounds like a fab time, Bon…love the photos….love your kiddo. Sorry you got sick though….maybe it was a snake bite?!


    • Maureen – I love the tie-in between our posts!! Asynchronous Serendipity!! Two of my favorite words brought together! 🙂 The driving your life – driving meaning free and authentic – driving my life. Perfection. Driving is one of my favorite things and truly when I feel the most free. Kiddo and I talked about that too!

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        • Thank you so much for that – the import of your comment is clear and and I think my experience was similar and perhaps why I take the approach I do? Wanting something that did not exist before?

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  3. Wow, Bon, as others have said, you really banked some precious memories on this trip! I was with ya every step of the way, but especially loved this passage: “Deposits into that long term account were being made, I could hear the coins hitting the metal.” Beautifully written. Thx for sharing. This journey will pay dividends for years to come, I’m certain of it. Lucky boy, lucky mom. 🙂 xox


    • Ah I am so glad my coin dropping analogy made sense! Was a great trip, by all standards, at the same time a very unique kind of trip and I am grateful for the chance to do that for us. Every little bit counts! Thanks for riding along – you are such an awesome road trip companion! I should have asked you for a new playlist! It all snuck up me! xoxo


  4. These memories are Bank! So loving these adventures of yours; so happy you are that kind of Mom and he’s that kind of kiddo. The only thing missing was the mp3 file of the two of your singing down the road to one of your shared tunes? Come on…you had to have right? Love you BonBon and am thinking I’d like to be like you when I grown up! And just think…you are still just at the beginning…so much more to come! xoxo


    • Love that Rhon, ‘these memories are bank!’ Yes!! Hahahahaha about the mp3 file. Doesn’t exist! Only in your mind my crazy friend. And in your mind, I get to sound like, well, um, Pink, and Ben like one of the boys from One Direction. Yes! Cue up the playlist! You want to be like me when you grow up? Now what did you put in your coffee before writing that comment? You assume that I have grown up?!? 🙂 We need to chat! xoxo


      • Oh yeah, you get to sound like Pink! haha And, yes, technically I suppose I have grown up, but it is all a state of mind! I’m still trying to figure out how to do this grown ups having fun thing…and you are an excellent teacher. (and there may have been a slight bit o the irish in the coffee, but that is our secret). And we absolutely need to share some chin wag time…summer’s almost over, work looming I’m sure, but when you have the time, you know where to find me. 🙂 xoxo


        • Yes!! I get to sound like Pink in your mind. Now how awesome is THAT!? You just made my day! I didn’t assume YOU had (or have to, is really what I meant) grow up, you seemed like you were assuming that I have! That’s crazy talk, girl. Having fun as a 40-something, yes, I am figuring that part out finally and happy to share along the way! Lesson #1 – no, just kidding 🙂 Yes, chat time needs to happen. xoxo


  5. What a very cool mama you are, Bonnie. And what an amazing Kiddo you have! It sounds like he has the depth of a person far older than ten and I think your relationship with him is so special. Keep making those deposits and I hope you’ll collect all these posts for him to read as an adult so that he can understand what a unique and wonderful relationship the two of you have. I just love posts like this! xoxo


    • Thank you Jessica!! I often think of him as ‘an old soul’ – he just seems like he gets things I certainly didn’t at his age! 🙂 Good idea to collect and save – I assume it will all still be “here” but you give me an idea! Thank you!! xox


  6. I delight in your summer travels with your son, imagining your conversations and experiences (even the not-so-exciting stuff). You and he have one of those relationships that others admire and arguably yearn for – in no small part because of the ka-ching. The time you spend together being together. Love you BonBon and love that boy of yours. You were flying way before you got on that zipline! xo

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    • Thanks Mimi! Love that you are sort of ‘eavesdropping’ on us in your imagination. You may pop in anytime!!! He continues to surprise me and thus my need to keep it concrete somehow. And so we end up here. Love you too. xoxo


  7. OMG…you need to write for $$$$$$ you paint such wonderful word pictures.

    Thanks for letting me be part of the journey.



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